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Who Pays for The Wedding?

WeddingWho Pays for The Wedding A New survey reveals that eight in ten ceremonies are now being paid for using donations from a number of family members. So it seems that all the pressure doesn’t fall upon the father of the bride as much as it did in the past.

In fact, only 18 per cent of brides’ parents now take care of the entire tab for the big day with 42 per cent of couples paying for it themselves. And despite the bride’s family traditionally paying for the event, the report revealed that these days the groom’s parents are also keen to chip in for the big day.

In some cases grandparents are also chipping in to pay for the nuptials. More than half of the 2,000 married females polled said they never expected their father to foot the whole bill, and felt it was a dated tradition. The poll also found that nearly one in ten couples even receive hand-outs from their siblings in order to pull-off their dream wedding. Although it’s the couples themselves who are bearing the brunt and paying for the majority. And despite donations from others, more than one in ten bride and grooms still didn’t have enough money to pay for everything they wanted.

A quarter of those, said their parents didn’t give them enough and 30 per cent said other things cropped up which meant they had to spend money elsewhere. 14 per cent of brides still managed to fall out with their parents over wedding costs. And one in ten couples said there was awkwardness and tension over the finances of their big day.

A third of brides said they expected more money to be given to them, but in contrast 29 per cent said they felt overwhelmed by the huge sum their parents were offering to pay towards their nuptials and felt they couldn’t accept it. Other arguments arose when one set of parents contributed a great deal more cash than the other.

A quarter of the women surveyed said rather than paying towards their big, white wedding, her parents wanted to pay towards something else. Of the quarter – 37 per cent said they would be happier stumping up a deposit to a property and a third would rather pay for the honeymoon.

One in twenty said their parents were reluctant to stump up any cash as they weren’t ‘totally on-board’ with the marriage and 27 per cent felt the wedding was too extravagant. Finally, the survey found that a plain gold band is still the most popular choice for brides, and 73 per cent of women said they love their wedding ring as much now as they did when they first got it.